Doubts?

What do you mostly think about when you are in doubt, let say in a relationship?

When you have doubt it means that you are not trusting enough to your partner (in any relationship you are in). Why are you not trusting? Why don't you trust the other?

Have we all forgotten the rules of a relationship? It all started with trust. You trust that your partner will love you back, treat you nice, stay loyal to you, be faithful to you.

The other reason that you may not trust your partner enough could be that you don't have enough trust in yourself. Think about it. They say that 'To love, you have to be love'. So I am rephrasing it with trust this way. "To trust another, learn to trust yourself."

I know that the generation that we live in now is hard to be trusting to another. Especially in a partnership relationship of any kind. Marriage, boy/girlfriend or even friendship. It is hard to trust now because the generation of our people have changed.

Not everyone can let themselves out to the whole world without feeling that they are being judged by another. Because everyone has a reputation to keep. That will be another story another post. But why can't you be trust so others can learn to trust you first?

Change starts with us, ourselves, not others. If you try to force someone to change, you will just end up getting g a headache and stress. So exclude the stress and let them learn to change by seeing the change in you first.

What matters?

What really matters most doesn't really matters sometimes. What's more important is what is the intention behind the thing that matters to you.

To me, my family matters to me the most. Because in the end of the day, they are the last one there for me when the whole world turned away from me. They are the first one to talk to regarding advices that you can relay on.

Family is very important because they are the ones that you selected to be with before you came to earth. They are always there even if you don't want them to be. They are the best friends that you have ever since birth.

They care for you no matter what happens, and always love you even if you think that you are a burden to them. They support you in all ways. When they don't they have their own reasons.

You can tell them everything you want about yourself and your problems and still see them there the next morning. Because, where else can they go? You are all living under the same roof (or not), still in the end of the day you are family. You can't run away from that.

Family is also the shelter from problems you have with the society. The home that you can always be in. The source of love to look for. The place where you can feel safe the most. Like it or not, they are still family and they are not going anywhere at all.

That is why family matters most to me. What about you?